i've been kinda on and off singing for about 9 months now. Because of two reasons,
First being not having a band so not really having an incentive to practice (i know, its stupid)
and secondly, which is was i wanna talk about today, Confidence issues.
Basically now i have a band, we play heavy metal, although not a huge amount of screaming, i'm lead singer and rhythm guitarist.
Now heres my problem, i'm not really at the standard of singing as i am on guitar, and as a result it makes my singing look worse than it really is, this adds to the problem.
But the main problem is support from friends, but mainly family. I've always been a musical person, although both my parents weren't serious musicians they were always supportive of my drumming, guitar, bass e.t.c.
But now, we keep having these conversations about how i shouldn't be singing, find another singer, why sing when you're great on guitar, and just general stuff that really really knocks my confidence.
At the moment i haven't been practicing or singing with the band because of it, i've had talks with my parents saying that what they're doing is making me really self conscious and i can't handle it.
Alas, every time the subject comes up it moves on to, "Hey Chris, why not find a better singer and you stick to guitar".
Now i'm not by any means a good singer, but thats probably down to the fact i've not been properly practicing, but they also don't really get the physics of singing, not everyone was born an amazing singer, personally i blame these shows like X-factor and American Idol, people are made to believe these singers have never practiced and never done anything to do with music and yet somehow they have this amazing talent. Now, yes, i can see some people do have it that easy, but the rest of us don't or..?
I don't think i'm tone deaf since i can play guitar by ear and work out songs, and if i'm singing and can hear myself i can tell when i'm not on key (to and extent, not Perfect pitched by a long shot).
Anyway, thats quite an essay, please please please someone contribute and help me, i'm close to throwing in the towel and abandoning that dream altogether.