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Practice, Passion and Perseverance - The Perfect Combination

tinaalcoracetinaalcorace Posts: 133Moderator, Pro
Welcome All KTVA Students,

I would like to share with you an experience of mine I am sure can be relatable to you. We all know as vocalists there are many ups and downs to progression and success. The key phrase we must remember is "failing forward" because with every failure, you are one step closer to success. I have been singing since I was 3, professionally since I was about 12 years old, and hit the music industry scene when I was 16 years old. With every form of criticism, I let it go, took it in, but never allowed it to rise to the surface. It is only recently after a solid hit of criticism that I found myself revisiting every other moment someone had put me down or expressed some form of discouragement of negativity. With a recent opportunity this year, I failed, and the overwhelming feelings that came with that caused a snowball effect. Since that opportunity till the beginning of this month, there was a slow and gradual decline to my self belief. I went from being confident in myself and my abilities, to not feeling confident at all. The psychology of singing and what Ken talks about is very true. Because of the negative talk I had developed, I found it affecting any form of vocal performance or practice. I went from "its okay, ill get there" to "I cant do this". Singing was and has always been all ive ever known and all of a sudden, I started feeling and thinking that singing was no longer a purpose of mine and yet, I still found myself trying. I still held on, never gave up and despite the little confidence, still believe this gift given to me had purpose. With time, conversation and tears I finally reached a breaking point. A point of success! Just when I thought that hope was diminishing, I broke through that wall; I broke through that glass sealing I felt was holding me down. I came to realise it was me! I was holding myself down from all that I could and can achieve. I started to become aware of my negative talk and made the effort to change it everytime. From "I cant do this" to "im gonna get it, maybe not today, but I will". This mentality changed my confidence and through the "failure" I had a breakthrough that has now made me feel unstoppable. Sometimes in life things have to get worse before they get better. In this instance, that is what happened to me. The whole experience reassured me of my passion, I persevered and with practice I am succeeding!

I am happy to share with you all, that despite the downfall and rough couple of months, I am back! With the support of not only my family, Ken Tamplin, my supporters and friends, but supporting and believing in myself!

In a week, I have released FOUR youtube cover videos and now a have a new-found confidence that I feel will carry me all the way. To anyone reading this my advice to you is this: No matter how hard it seems, how impossible it may appear to be, it is possible if you practice, maintain that passion and persevere! Through action you will discover your abilities to the fullest and through failure you will find your success!

If anyone wishes to see the progress and FOUR videos this past week you may do so below

Skyfall


Stone Cold


Cant Help Falling in Love with You



Good singing to you!
Rise above and love,
Mys T x

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  • Great read. Im in much of the same situation loosing the band and being in a completely new setting.

    It is always that magic balance between confidence and deep self critisism that makes us grow. We need to be able o put ourselves in the mindset that we know nothing to be able to truly learn and we need to be able to be 100% confident to be able to perform at our best. Sometimes we need to switch in seconds . From A live performance to listen and take in feedback that is so easy to misread as overly critical or even personal.

    It is easy to let other people or yourself get you off balance, especially today, with so much happening so fast.

    There is only forward.

    Take what you do seriously but never take yourself too seriously

    TLDR just be the exact opposite of trump.
  • Great post! Thank you for sharing!
    I had similar experience, and found that after each self doubt crisis, comes a discovery and some improvement.
    Great singing to you!!
  • tinaalcoracetinaalcorace Posts: 133Moderator, Pro
    TommyM said:

    Great advice and something more singers could benefit from if they applied it to themselves. It seems crazy to think that a lot of singers don't consider the psychological aspects, but it's such an integral part of the developmental process and, in my experience, really can make or break your practice.

    Thanks for posting this, and for sharing your videos!

    My pleasure @TommyM , thank you for sharing your thoughts. A healthy mind filled with the basic psychological needs of autonomy, relatedness and competence will foster great performance
  • tinaalcoracetinaalcorace Posts: 133Moderator, Pro
    Joyce said:

    Great post! Thank you for sharing!
    I had similar experience, and found that after each self doubt crisis, comes a discovery and some improvement.
    Great singing to you!!

    Thanks @Joyce Same to you!
  • Great advice and something more singers could benefit from if they applied it to themselves. It seems crazy to think that a lot of singers don't consider the psychological aspects, but it's such an integral part of the developmental process and, in my experience, really can make or break your practice.

    Thanks for posting this, and for sharing your videos!
  • seanjhseanjh Posts: 7Pro
    edited January 12 Vote Up0Vote Down
    @tinaalcorace Singing all your life, that is an amazing accomplishment. You are your own proof you've got what it takes, that's what matters most. Thrilled to read your story, and that you're still going strong following your passion! I enjoyed your Skyfall cover on your channel, and the acoustic rehearsal was charming. 

    I believe singing is truly a special gift we should share. The act of singing is inspiring to others, and we get to put our mark on whatever we do with it. 

    Society focus on success as if its instant or comes naturally... like how Ken talks about the diet pill sing courses. Our 'failures' are what make us successful. As long as we're open to learning and knowing you'll fall down again, when all it takes is get up and keep on pushing. 

    The mindset that there is no failure, only feedback (from NLP) can give you a handy lens on life. Trust yourself first, and filter others feedback accordingly. 

    How often negativity results relate to people projecting what they lack or desire or have no reason to say other than provoke? When I was younger, my father told me using rasp and singing heavy was a joke and I'd never be good at it. I took it personally at first, but singing like my idols meant the world to me, so instead it helped fuel my desire to sing better until I got the results I hoped for. And to this day, whether he listens or cares for songs I create, doesn't even enter my mind.

    Keep up the great work, looking forward to hearing more. :)

    Take care,
    Sean
  • tinaalcoracetinaalcorace Posts: 133Moderator, Pro
    seanjh said:

    @tinaalcorace Singing all your life, that is an amazing accomplishment. You are your own proof you've got what it takes, that's what matters most. Thrilled to read your story, and that you're still going strong following your passion! I enjoyed your Skyfall cover on your channel, and the acoustic rehearsal was charming. 

    I believe singing is truly a special gift we should share. The act of singing is inspiring to others, and we get to put our mark on whatever we do with it. 

    Society focus on success as if its instant or comes naturally... like how Ken talks about the diet pill sing courses. Our 'failures' are what make us successful. As long as we're open to learning and knowing you'll fall down again, when all it takes is get up and keep on pushing. 

    The mindset that there is no failure, only feedback (from NLP) can give you a handy lens on life. Trust yourself first, and filter others feedback accordingly. 

    How often negativity results relate to people projecting what they lack or desire or have no reason to say other than provoke? When I was younger, my father told me using rasp and singing heavy was a joke and I'd never be good at it. I took it personally at first, but singing like my idols meant the world to me, so instead it helped fuel my desire to sing better until I got the results I hoped for. And to this day, whether he listens or cares for songs I create, doesn't even enter my mind.

    Keep up the great work, looking forward to hearing more. :)

    Take care,
    Sean

    Thank you @seanjh for your input on this and for taking the time to provide an insightful response. I agree and the art is all about learning...continuous learning, growth and discovery. Its in those moments we discover the gift given to us and how we can use it to impact the lives of others!

    Good singing to you

    Rise above and love
    Mys T x
  • wow that is awesome. you are a really great singer. thanks for sharing about your struggle that helps me in my current situation. i know i am very self conscious about the way i sing. i really like this forum, they seem very helpful and accepting of a person at any stage of learning.
  • kringlan said:

    Great read. Im in much of the same situation loosing the band and being in a completely new setting.

    It is always that magic balance between confidence and deep self critisism that makes us grow. We need to be able o put ourselves in the mindset that we know nothing to be able to truly learn and we need to be able to be 100% confident to be able to perform at our best. Sometimes we need to switch in seconds . From A live performance to listen and take in feedback that is so easy to misread as overly critical or even personal.

    It is easy to let other people or yourself get you off balance, especially today, with so much happening so fast.

    There is only forward.

    Take what you do seriously but never take yourself too seriously

    TLDR just be the exact opposite of trump.

    Where does all this wisdom come from? I can't really think of anything but wow!
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